Friday, July 15, 2005

Thinking of Her

It's hard not to think about the person you love, even if you have yet to meet them. I can't help but think about this precious little girl that will one day be my daughter. Has she been born yet? Is she still being carried in her mother's womb? Or is she already in an orphanage? Is she sleeping right now? All I know is that I love her already and I don't even know who she is. It's a strong but very strange feeling. I wonder if this is the feeling pregnant women feel for their unborn children?

I am reading this book called The Lost Daughters of China. It is so poignant. The author talks about her journey into adopting a little one from China. Her story frightens me a little bit. Maybe worried is a better word. Her adoption took nearly 22 months from the time they turned in their application to the time she held her baby. I don't know if I can wait for 22 months. That is such a long time. My prayer is that this is a quick process, a year at the most. I know I might be asking for the moon but I believe in a God who hears and answers BIG prayer requests. I know He could provide us with a child in that amount of time. It's all in God's timing though.

The stories in this book are so heartbreaking. The girls in China are equivalent to trash. Stories of babies being strangled or drowned because they were born with female chromosome. Stories of abandoned babies left in between bundles of bok choy at the local market. Babies left on park benches, under trees, or on the stoops of storefronts. Where was or will my daughter be abandoned? It already hurts my heart to know that the child I love so much will have to endure such a tragic situation. I definitely suggest this book if you are interested in China adoptions.

On a more frightening note, today I read on the Drudge Report that China is ready to Nuke us if we step out of place. What if this situation escalates out of control and we can no longer adopt from China? What if we do get to China but something happens while we are there. Wow! So many what if's and I really shouldn't be worrying. Worrying isn't going to solve the problem. Now that I know I want to adopt my child from China, I am paying closer attention to the news issues regarding that country.

I did read tonight about a bracelet that is given to adopting mothers. It's a red twine bracelet's that symbolizes the strength and love for a person not yet met. The twine holds Jade beads which symbolize luck. A ladybug charm is added to the bracelet's for good luck as well. Apparently if the adoptive parent sees a ladybug, a referral for a child is not far behind. The bracelet is also a reminder to pray for your child each day. I think I am going to go make one tomorrow for myself. It's such a neat tradition.