Failed Adoptions

I have been so sad and angry for this stranger who lost her daughter (see post below). She had to give her little one back to the birth mother after she had this child in her care for several days. This is known as a failed adoption. In the adoption world, this is equivelant to experiencing the death of child. It's incredibly painful for the adoptive parents.

I can appreciate the pain of the birth mother having to give her child up but I am going to take sides with the adoptive parents. I really, really believe that this system here in America concerning adoption is a flawed system, hence one of the many reasons we have chosen to adopt outside of the country. This situation should have never happened. I personally believe that once the child is born the birth parents should sign the legal documents relinquishing their rights within 24 hours. Once these papers are signed the child can no longer be handed back to the birth parents. No waiting period for days. No putting the parents in limbo wondering if the birth parents will want the baby back.

I hope that this family finds comfort and peace with this situation. Their loss is every adoptive parent's loss. We grieve with them.